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Throwback Thursday #17

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From my Tumblr in December of 2010.

James 2:14-26

“14What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? 15If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? 17So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.
18But someone will say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. 19You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons believe—and shudder! 20Do you want to be shown, you foolish person, that faith apart from works is useless? 21 Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered up his son Isaac on the altar? 22You see that faith was active along with his works, and faith was completed by his works; 23and the Scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness”—and he was called a friend of God. 24You see that a person is justified by works and not by faith alone. 25And in the same way was not also Rahab the prostitute justified by works when she received the messengers and sent them out by another way? 26For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so also faith apart from works is dead.”

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Throwback Thursday #16

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From my Tumblr in December of 2010.

Some thoughts on confession…

I think a lot of the time we think of confession as becoming pure or for just receiving forgiveness. Confessing sin isn’t just about coming clean, it’s also about discipleship. Of course people need to confess their sin so that the Lord will forgive (1 John 1:9) but the people we disciple need to know when we’ve made a mistake so they don’t repeat those acts themselves. If they see their mentor sin, and their mentor never confesses that the act was a sin, how is the one being discipled to know it was a sin? Then you have caused your brother or sister to stumble. It could also cause you to look like a hypocrite. If you tell the one you are discipling not to do an act similar to the one you did, he will call you a hypocrite and lose all respect for you – your witness will be tarnished. As Christians we need to be honest with ourselves and with each other. That is the only way iron can sharpen iron (Proverbs 27:17).

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Throwback Thursday #13

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From a Myspace blog post I wrote in 2006.

Wow, can you say “God speaking to me!”

Revelation 2:2 –

2I know what you do, how you work hard and never give up. I know you do not put up with the false teachings of evil people. You have tested those who say they are apostles but really are not, and you found they are liars. 3You have patience and have suffered troubles for my name and have not given up. 4But I have this against you: you have left the love you had in the beginning.  5So remember where you were before you fell. Change your hearts and do what you did at first.

i think its when we become content with our relationship with God is when we should worry. a healthy relationship means desiring more. i think when you know you don’t have enough of God is when your are at least on the right track. i think we get off that track when we forget our first love (Jesus), and when we stop desiring Him, when we want to be better people but forget why. i know that the grace of God saves us not the stuff we do, but we sometimes we begin to believe that the good stuff we do will make our relationship better. i think that’s backwards. that we should seek the relationship first, remember our first love, the reason for the good stuff we do. and then the stuff is done in love not in vein.

this was just my opinion, God just really spoke to me when reading this. i’ve been having a problem with doing things for God in vein lately… kind of thinking out loud. what do you think?

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Throwback Thursday #11

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From my Tumblr in March of 2012.

I’ve been thinking and praying on this question for a few weeks now. As a wife, my desire is to be a Biblical one, so that my husband can have confidence in me, and so that I can be an adequate partner to my husband. But how do I become that? What is it that makes a good wife?

I’ve gotten input from lots of women (single & married) and in that, have received many different answers and opinions on this subject. Here are some I came across:

  • Being a Proverbs 31 wife; having a clean home; having a stress-free, welcoming home
  • Honesty and faithfulness, love and forgiveness
  • Partnership
  • Respecting the husband as the leader of the family; staying considerate of the husbands needs
  • Praying for the husband
  • Making him sandwiches (of course that was my husband’s lovely input, lol)
  • Knowing how to delegate chores throughout the family
  • Cooperation and compromise; remembering that the wife’s way isn’t the only way; not sweating the small stuff, and sometimes even the big stuff
  • Not being too controlling or nagging; trust the husband and let him have the personality and interests that he pursues; respect each other

I also came across this blog The Striving Wife (be sure to read parts 2 & 3 as well). These three articles she has written on What Makes A Good Wife are awesome and spot on. These attributes of a good wife are ones to look up to and strive for.

I’m a big observer. At times I’m kind of spacey because I’m busy looking at things around me. I like to watch people, to see how they interact with other people, to different situations, etc. In my people-watching, I’ve come across different types of marriages but two (types of wives) in particular have made the biggest impression, making me wonder which I am more like, and which I should be. One is a nagging, controlling and as I’ve heard it said, micromanaging wife. And the other a loving, respectful, submissive wife.

The first wife has made us laugh on TV shows like Everybody Loves Raymond, and we’ve identified with her time and time again. But she is nagging and controlling and is the opposite of what a Biblical wife looks like. Proverbs gives it to us straight, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife” (Prov 21:9); “Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife” (Prov 21:19), and “A quarrelsome wife is like the dropping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm” (Prov 27:15). When her husband asks her to do something she does so (after arguing) with resentment and rolling her eyes, if done at all. She remembers all the things he doesn’t do for her, but forgets how hard he works for her. When hanging out with her friends she complains about her husband and makes fun of him. Her husband is stressed, frustrated, and comes home from a busy workday to a nagging wife that makes him feel like he’d rather live on a corner of their roof. This wife is the source of the “ball and chain” marriage jokes or the saying that marriage is a prison sentence.

But the second wife brings joy to her husband and reflects the love of Christ. The one I look up to the most, the one I see who has the most attributes of a good wife is my friend Heather. Watching her be a wife is inspiring and convicting. She is encouraging towards her husband and submissive. “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value” (Prov 31:11), “She watches over the affairs of her household… Her children arise and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her” (Prov 31:27-28). She has patience towards her children and husband, and thinks the best of him. She is selfless in doing things for her husband and children. She notices and thanks him when he does things for her, and she knows how hard he works for her and their family. Once when I was telling Heather how alike her daughter and husband were, she said, “If Meirah turns out just like Dave, that would be great! Dave is awesome.” When talking with others about her husband, she lifts him up and talks positively of him. She is the product of a Biblical wife and worthy of honor.

So which one am I? I’m thinking a little of both… I know there are several things I need to work on. Patience and arguing come to mind. I’m big on lists, so a good to-do list is always handy to me. In reading commentaries, watching other women, and talking with them, in addition to the previous attributes I listed, I think these general attributes are ones that wives should have at the top of their to-do list:

  • Be attractive for your husband – Of course your husband probably already thinks you’re attractive, but seeing you make the effort to look nice for him is very encouraging. You wouldn’t want to see him in his boxers all day every day either, so getting dressed and looking good for your husband is nice too.
  • Have a clean living environment – No one wants to live in a cluttered household. Your husband’s office or workspace is probably cluttered (and if you have a job, yours probably is too), so it’s nice to come home to a clutter-free home!
  • Give your husband undivided attention each day – No distractions (computer, phone, TV, kids, etc.). This seems like a no-brainer, but unfortunately it is something that gets pushed aside with our busy schedules. Make time to sit and talk with each other.
  • Pick your battles, try not to complain to your husband – Don’t expect to have your way all the time. Cooperation, compromise, and patience are the source to this one. If there is something big, obviously communicate and share your concerns, but like The Striving Wife said, “minor complaints are often best kept unsaid.”
  • Encourage your husband – This is huge in the eyes of men. Husbands yearn for the admiration and approval of their wives. As often as you can, give him encouragement.
  • Respect your husband and submit to his authority – Biblically, your husband is the leader of your household, be respectful of that. You and your husband will have disagreements and it is important to communicate your thoughts, but to do so with respect. His decision in the end, though should be submitted to. Your submissiveness should be done respectfully and without complaining. Just like you, he isn’t perfect so if he makes the wrong decision, stay a partnership and don’t say, “I told you so!”
  • Pray for your husband – This is probably the most important thing you can do. Pray for his leadership, for his work, for his relationship with God, and for your marriage.

A woman I respect a lot sent me this message on being a good wife, I thought it was great and should be added to this post:

“It is my experience that it is important not to be too controlling… Trust the husband and let him have a personality and interests that he pursues. I know so many women who don’t like to “let” their husbands go play golf (or fish, or hunt, or play poker, or whatever their hobby is) because it takes away from their time together. But even though he is a husband, he is still a person, too and has interests. I believe that is why we hear so many joking about the “old ball and chain” or marriage is a “prison sentence”. Don’t let the husband feel that way, any more than you would want to feel that way. Now, I think it is appropriate for him to tell you or discuss with you when he is going to do something, particularly if it involves family finances or may interfere with another scheduled item – and the same goes for the wife. In other words, respect each other…”

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Throwback Thursday #10

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From my journal in January of 2012 (and posted on my Tumblr).

Journal Entry – Jan 24, 2012

On Sunday, Todd [the pastor of the church I go to] talked about striving in prayer. He gave us a good outline of how we can be successful in our attempt at striving in prayer. I am reminded that prayer takes time; it is a sacrifice of time. He used the example: when you go out to lunch and spend time with someone, have a conversation with them, it doesn’t just last one second and then it’s over. It takes time. I need to set aside time every day to really spend in prayer. So often I become very general while praying, “God, please be with this family.” Todd reminded us that if the people in this family are believers, then I am asking God to do something He has already promised to do. Specificity is so important. If we are so general in our prayers, it will be difficult for us to see how God answers them. We should know what we are asking God and think, “How am I going to know when He has answered this prayer?” Fasting. This is something I have heard a lot about but never really studied. I have fasted from material things, but never from food. I think I may do this soon, though, so that I can seriously devote time to pray for [a friend of mine] to know Christ. I want to study it a bit more first, though. Another thing my pastor mentioned is that while persisting in prayer, we must be willing to pray the same thing over and over and over and over again for a long time until God answers us; “…by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” (Philippians 4:6). And also asking people to praywith you, not just for you but to strive in prayer with you. He mentioned that there is a risk in that, in asking someone to pray with you. At times, it may come to be that the person who is praying with you may come to you and say, “I’ve been praying about this, and I really think that God is telling you no.” Having someone pray with you can be a hard thing, but at times they can help you see His answers to your prayers. But also, they can be a comfort as they help to carry these burdens. They can be an encouragement to you as you continue to strive together in prayer.

Unfortunately, so often I go to God for this and that, and all of these things are selfish. Even, at times, in my praying for the salvation of a friend. Maybe at times when I pray, I am so tired. Maybe at times I just want them to know Him because I’ve been carrying this burden, and my emotions are so constantly being poured into this, that I am tired of praying and thinking on these things that my motive for praying for their salvation has turned in to one of selfishness.

“Sometimes prayer is a struggle because God is literally beating the selfishness out of you.” –Todd Pylant

I need to pray that God would take the selfishness out of me so that I never pray in selfishness. Sometimes it just gets really really hard to pray the same things over and over again. I want to, and I know I need to. And I care so much for the people I pray for, especially the people who I am praying for to come to Christ, but it gets hard. I think it is so hard at times because of the care and desire for salvation for someone. It is hard to know that just like last night, and the night before, and the many many nights before those, I still need to be patient and wait. I know that it is His desire for these people to be saved, and to have a relationship with them, so I should let that be an encouragement to me as I continue to pray for them. I need to remember that He is sovereign and that His timing is perfect.

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